Why Should I Deal With Rude, Tactless, Messy, Dirty, Uneducated People?
73They are egocentric, moody and childish.
Their enthusiasm overrides basic decorum in many circumstances.
They are generally incompetent, dependent and frequently demanding.
They are messy. They get stuff all over themselves because they are more enthusiastic than careful . Their physical coordination usually needs more development.
Relatively unconcerned about personal grooming , they are also unmindful about the direction of their sneezes.
They do not really understand about germs, bacteria and occasional parasites. They readily and generously share those bits of life with everyone.
Their rudeness may be more more thoughtless than malicious, but they have not developed the sophistication needed for using ANY tactfulness.
Some of you, by now, may have guessed that I am talking about young kids. I was a kindergarten teacher's assistant for three years-- which probably made up for the fact that I did not attend kindergarten, myself, as a five year old.
Mom said my first grade teacher as appalled to learn that I was new to school, but I did know my numbers and letters, plus a few other things. I guess you could say I was home-schooled by my mom and older sister. I got along OK.
One of the few things I remember about first grade, was that the teacher, one day, announced that we were going to plant a garden. "Is is going t be a kindergarden", I asked innocently. She laughed a lot--- like I was telling a joke or something. The truth was, I had heard the word "kindergarten" and knew it had something to do with school, but I had no idea of what it really was.
The phenomenon of "five-year-oldness".
When I worked with kindergartners, as a grown-up, I found out that these little humans will mindlessly step on your toes and put their grubby hands (with with they have wiped their runny noses), on you and your clothes.
They will painfully peel back a gooey band-aid from their skinned knee and eagerly seek your appraisal of their latest roller skate injury.
For many of us it is too early to see the benefits of old age-wisdom, which comes so late in life that few of us attain it. Instead, we should try to understand the wise insight of young children.
We older humans have a socially acquired sophistication, a learned a social and cultural tolerance, a usual politically and socially correct way of expressing ourselves.
All of these learned conventions might not be what we really deep-down believe.... but the five year old is the model of natural tolerance which doesn't see skin color, race, religion, unusual names, culture, ethnic dress or other differences as being unusual.
Kindergartners love to share things with you. A half-eaten cookie, a dandelion bouquet, a piece of broken costume jewelry that mom has thrown away, and bubble gum half-chewed to perfection, is a loving gift. It is a kind of kindergarten love that we sometimes feel insensitive enough to decline.
A five-year-old will bring you a hand-drawn picture of a house, and a tree, and a sun, and a butterfly. It may have a flower and a rainbow and a drawing of themself because they all understand that those things are all of the MOST important things in the world. They want to share them with you, so you will understand it, too.
The teacher I worked with, Mrs. Susdorf was a very young person in her late 60's. She was a former high school Phys. Ed. teacher and still played tennis regularly, so she was lean, active and very self-disiplined. She was consistent in her expectations, but also kind, compassionate and had a marvelous sense of humor.
She expected a lot of her young students and sometimes warned them that their naughty behavior "might make her grumpy". I'm not sure they understood her expression, or what this "grumpiness" would look like, but they knew she was serious and they shaped up quickly.
Why would anyone work in Kindergarten?
These emergent people are seldom devious or sarcastic. They will tell you that they love you in the same earnest and direct way that they tell you your hair looks funny today..You will know that they are telling you the same honest truth in both cases.
They are egocentric, moody and childish. So why do some of us choose to associate with these obviously inferior people on a regular basis?
It is because that packaged with all these little shortcomings are a set of qualities that humanize us, There is curiosity and enthusiasm, an innocent and playful sense of humor.
There is trust, honesty, insight ... and love. And because when you have established a bond of acceptance between yourself and a child, Heaven is pleased.
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Rochelle, I have a granddaughter approaching KG age. I couldn't agree with you more. Thanks for covering that ground and helping us to better understand it. WB
This is completely charming... maybe because it is so easy to recall those grubby hands and trusting little faces. I have to admit that I hesitated when I read the title, then my face broke out into a grin when I saw where you were going with this. Like I said, charming...
very nice rochelle, and so true. my career has been in early childhood education and I've learned more from working with 3-5 year olds than I ever could with adults. they are completely honest, unassuming, transparent, creative, much more intelligent than we think, funny, solution oriented, trusting, loving, know the true meaning of forgiveness... I think the only thing I didn't enjoy about working with them are the direct sneezes and coughs into our face and sometimes their parents! great hub, glad I found it on the hub feed.
I constantly play peekaboo with young kids at the supermarket. Ninety-five percent of them play back. It always lifts my spirits and makes my day, no matter what else is going on. Thank the universe for kids. Love 'em!
I liked this hub. It describes the children exactly, but they also are not vindictive, this is all natural behaviour because they are new to the world and learning.
I am not saying all small children are angels but in most cases meanness is learned not inherent.
We were all that age once and they will all be old someday. We are all human beings.
I will read more of your hubs.
Such a lovely piece of writing!
Your title certainly fooled me.
Maria
What a nice way to begin a Sunday morning, with humor and wisdom combined in one single package. I love this hub and the way you write. Thanks so much for getting my day off to a nice start.
I'm with Jen's Solitude. Lovely article. Young children are our future, but it's a shame more adults don't look to them to remind us of a few valualbe life lessons.
Thanks for a great start to a busy day
Heaven is pleased - something I will never forget! At first, reading just the title, I thought you were talking about artists! I think all these little guys are just hippies, you know? all you need ia about a ton of patience and all the love in you to daily help them put on the polite mask society requires, and reassure them that there will always be safe havens where they can just be themselves, bright and beautiful! You brought back so many lovely memories for me of my own primitives!
The condition that you describe may be early systems of bigger problems.
When I started reading this, I didn't know where you were going with it. I think teachers of all ages, even adults, need to read this. It helps you remember why you teach in the first place.
I have a son in Kindergarden and he is just as you described and it's nice to know that another adult would realize that they are just learning and growing, not creepy little urchins that don't know anything. Great hub thank you.
brilliant hub!
Beautiful Hub, Rochelle, I enjoyed every word you wrote it. Kids are very inspiring.
This is such a heart-warming hub and makes me think of one of my friends who works with very young children. She absolutely loves it and would adopt some of the children who have unfortunate home lives, if she could. She has so much love to share and it is repaid to her many, many times over by these little ones. I admire you and her for your passion to work with these little unsophisicated people. At least they don't usually have hidden agendas!
Rochelle - If you ever decide to live in a condominium, you might be forced to rewrite this hub with adults as the protagonists.
Thanks for a joyful read.
What a lovely Hub. Pat writes: Tricia worked for several years as a primary school teacher, but mostly with 7 or 8 year olds. She says she still misses the kids.
All the traits you mention though are most endearing, and sometimes return in old age (when they can be somewhat less endearing.)
You don't seem like a snob, so I was surprised to see your hub with this title. Very sweet hub, especially the garden joke.
Rochelle, you've certainly done your time. MY BIGGEST pet peve is when I'm out in public and correct my kids, say for example someone may say "hi how are you" and my little shy dears ignore the greeting, I then prompt them to answer and the person will quickly say Oh no that's okay, NO it's not okay it is now the time to teach and shape basic respect for others. I feel you! Thanks and Peace :)
Your hub made me smile!
When I first entered education I thought I would work in early childhood education but instead I went to the other end of the spectrum, high school. A few weeks ago I had a the chance to go to our local elementary school (for professional development)and spent some time in the local kindergarten and it was the scariest thing, I will take a room full of teenagers over kindergarteners any day. Tip of the hat to all who work with that age! But I do agree, their innocence can teach us a lot.
Rochelle thank you for the reminder. I have a kindergartener. She is all these things and more. This was really lovely and brought a smile to my face and heart.
Such a nice hub-I'm so glad I followed Tammy here!
really kids are amazing......
lol..Oh my gosh! By the title I thought you were talking about most people I know!! Loved this hub!! Rated up!
My favorite age Rochelle. I always tell my kids I was a really great Dad when they were five. Then they grow up and know everything, even my shortcomings. =:) Love your writing.
I agree! Great article. Worded very nicely. =)
What a Wonderful, Wonderful Hub, beautifully written. Thank you so much for writing it and sharing it!
I love the "kinder-garden" story. It's strange how things like that can stick with you. When I was about 5 the woman babysitting me was talking to one of her sons about eating the crust on his bread. She told him " It will put hair hair on your chest" Imagine my horror. I refused to eat bread crust for years for fear I would wake up one moring with a hairy chest.
Another gem Rochelle! Thanks for sharing. Having 4 children myself I appreciated EVERY word of it! Blessings!
I loved this hub, I worked for about four years in what we called a Play School when my two were little. It was a fight to get your kids in to this Play School because more people wanted a place than the Play School could cope with. Working there my two got a place for free, very important when there was more month than money lol.
I loved every minute of it we didn't get paid in cash but we certainly got a lot more out than we put in.
Even thirty years later I still had young people come up to me in the street and ask me if I remembered them, so it seems it made an impact on them too. Thanks for the lovely trip back down memory lane.
So true.
I am going to pass this on to a friend who us a retired teacher. He tells great stories of his time with the kids.
Ha..I admit your title got me. I had to wonder who in the world you were referring to. Got my attention for sure! I gotta say one thing about Kindergarten teachers: you gotta be called to the work cause' it aint' easy! I remember working as a substitute teacher for several months. I spent more time wiping noses & sharpening pencils than teaching anything. Good article!
wonderful, teachers are very patient, I mean to work with children who have their own little world, tough job, good hub,
Hi, I used to work for Kumon, an after school teaching job. and I loved it, the children were very well mannered and did exactly as they were meant to. so I thought, wow this is great, and in my innocence, after the job had finished, I applied for a pre school job! I was exhausted, covered with children and dirt, they sneezed on me, coughed on me, and one even wet himself on me. But they did give me a flower! Oh, and I didn't get the job, this was just the training day! it went to a young girl who obviously had more energy than me! thanks nell
A very touching and truthful Hub. Children are priceless and spot on when it comes to honesty and unconditional love. Can't wait to read more. :)
Rochelle Frank. Hi. I love the way you have described these little guys, That we love unconditionally no matter what they have done, or how they do it.
They are ours to keep, teach and love, and hopefully grow in to wonderful adults one day.
Every word you have written is exactly as it is, and the journey we take with our children and others is priceless.
From beginning to end I could not wipe the smile off my face. These little guys do have a special way of doing things and expressing themselves.
Being a Kindergarten Teacher/Assistant as you were, to my mind takes a very caring and special person.
I loved this story. Thank you for sharing it. (still smiling). :) :)
Yes, kids are messy and sooooooooooooooo creative. I enjoyed reading your words!
hahahaha, good one!
I have not been around you much and now am really glad that I decided to visit. I love the little brats, and for the most part they are more honest than any teens or adult and so much fun. I get plenty of inspiration form them. I too started school in the first grade. We never had kindergarten back then in that Holler. Great hub, awesome.
Hi Rochelle - what a lovely hub. Thank you for this. Children of this age are refreshingly honest and they certainly let you know whare you stand with them. I didn't go to kindergarten (here in the UK it's nursery school) I don't think they were around in my school days.
I went to a 'Church of England Endowed' school which was absolutely horrible. The teacher was a dragon and I hated her. I even had her on my dinner table and she made me eat the most disgusting slop which literally made me sick. I was so happy when I moved to a different area and went to another school. I'm glad there were no teachers like her when my own kids were at school.
Thanks again for your hub - I'll be reading all your work now. Regards.
Lucie
Ahah! I see what you did therr! You started talking about my cousin Joe, and then you made a left turn at analogy and kids. :D
Great stuff!
Anyone working with children should read this hub. It is great. I did wonder who at first you were directing this towards and began laughing when I saw. Everything you said is so true. Thanks for the hub.
Rochelle: What a great hub! Brings back memories from my time working in a day care. Anyone who loves kids should read this hub. Fantastic, Bravo! :)
I loved your hub Rochelle. You have such a way with words that isn't hard to tell that you are a writer. I agree with MaryRenee, kid-lovers should read your hub:)
Great hub. I have 3 children and the time I spent with them I loved the most was 3-5.All three of them have such different personalities.This hub must be getting a load of traffic.
I thought you were talking about teen-agers LOL
You have captured the innocence of children very nicely! Well done. I enjoyed this hub very much. :)
Rochelle this hub brought tears to my eyes I have a 4 and 6 year old both boys and they energize me and fill my heart so. I know I will miss all those rude, tactless, messy and dirty traits one day :)
I've got a 36 year old, and you've just described him. Except for the bit where he should say he loves me, instead of asking for money. Nice one Rochelle.
We have to look beyond face to see the heart. This was well written and tells the story many of us don't see.......Most see the unruly, rude kids but they are after all little people that have not learned to be unkind yet.
Ben Evans hit it on the head eh? they are so honest and true/ I wish we could all stay that way...wonderful article/ Rochelle, thank you for re-opening my eyes about the wonder of children! barbara b
I just had to find out for myself how you knew that Potato Head was the answer. I just found out. Rochelle, I could not agree with you more, as a grandfather of 12, I often wonder how all that honesty and innocence as a child becomes lost as they grow older. Rochelle, I so enjoyed this hub and look forward to reading more of your hubs. God Bless!
Rochelle, this was a beautiful hub. I have a daughter in Prep, which is what you call kindergarten in the US I think, and a son in Grade 2 and one of my favourite things is getting to help out in their classrooms. The kids are so eager to share and to inform, and their sense of wonder and pleasure in tiny things, like a texta that no one else has used, is humbling for a cynical adult to see. Having my own children is like re-discovering the wonders of the world all over again. Having children and getting see them grow is such a privilege. I am going to be so sad when they lose that precious innocence. I'll never forget my son, when he was three calmly saying in a room full of adults. 'I just did a burp. It was a hot burp. It tasted like banana.' Such a vivid, entirely unselfconscious observation. Thanks for this hub. Makes me want to go pick up my kids from school right now.
I was hooked by your title: thought you were talking about my relatives. Children are all these things and more!
Enjoyed this very much, I love the way you described these little people. LOL... I have a 5 year old gran daughter that fits this hub. hahaha
Very light hearted Hub Rochelle Frank ! With my first child I signed up for Parent Participation Pre-school ! What an experience :) Refreshing to read , for my "child" is now 23 ! My how the years flew by Thank you for the reminders :)
I'm a preschool teacher so I could relate to this Hub well!
Until I read it and realized that you were talking about kindergarteners, I thought you were talking about my mom!
Their bright, eager eyes! Their joyful shouts! Their loud whispers that make you giggle! Their giggles! The way they climb in your lap or grab your hand or tug at you! The way they mispronounce and use words in funny ways! The way they LOVE! Oh, how can I go through another day without a grandchild around? or stuck out here in the country with an old man and the birds, how can I remember their childish glee without that yearning feeling I get? Oh, I'm crying now. and laughing at some of the things I'm remembering! Thanks Rochelle - I'm an emotional wreck, thanks to you. just kidding hey, what happened to the pics?
Oh, all the while I thought you were talking about some immature grown ups like some people I know! Well that is a different story.
It is true that some child can really put us adults into serious challenges. As a parent, I always feel scared I might not be able to raise my daughter as a fine individual what with all the other elements surrounding her. Despite my fear and although at times I shout at her because I feel annoyed with her antics, I still try my best to understand her and teach her whatever good my own parents have taught me. Kids can be annoying sometimes but in general they are lovable and God's greatest gift to us parents and grown ups. In fact they teach us compassion, humility and kindness which we tend to forget as we mature.
Funny and lovely (and kind of gross too). Now that I think about it, this hub had everything. Enjoyable read!
I was a bit reluctant to read at first. I thought it was not nice of your good image to blurt out your brush with an uneducated adult, so unbecoming of you. Good Lord, I was taken for a ride- you did it again, Rochelle. When will I even learn about you and your uneventful strategies that click all the time? Enjoyed my own frailty. In fairness, kids are obnoxious at times. They are irresistibly trying.
Great title, a real curve ball. As a father of three and a volunteer camp counselor I easily empathize with your condition. Twenty five years ago I could not have imagined the satisfaction that dealing with obnoxious, dirty and ill mannered individuals, has provided me. I really enjoyed your thoughts on the subject...many blessings to you, JR
A wonderful hub and I certainly thank you for it.
I have two grandchildren (1 and 3 years) and had forgotten until they appeared in my world just how wonderful children are, and how much they can teach and love. In spite of grubby hands!
Thanks again.
Nice reflections on the honesty and frankness of children. That's what makes them wonderful. Thanks for reading my Hub RJ
Rochelle, this is amazing! I find it so heartwarming that someone can see the beauty and potential wisdom in children even through the snot, the grouchies, the rudeness, the messiness. I loved it. Thanks for this!
What a great hub! I love it. Too cute.
A lovely hub indeed. I like your last quote, "And because when you have established a bond of acceptance between yourself and a child, Heaven is pleased."
I love the bonding with a child. Whether I watch a kid playing or play along with them, he/she will make my day.
Rochelle, I agree! This age is amazing. I remember well my nieces at this age, and they are loads of fun. I loved this hub: it touched my heart. Take care!
Such an useful hub!
Um counslers duh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My kids are presently 9,6 & 2 years old, so I know exactly what you are talking about. It is just now starting, but my 9yo is starting to lose his innocence. It is sad, in a way, but it is a part of life.
Clever guise, the title you picked for this hub.
Such a heart-warming work. What a world this would be if all children had the care and attention of people like you and the teacher you described. Thanks for lightening up my day.
Great hub about those innocent little tikes. Thumbs up, Rochelle. I love teachers. Witty and interesting piece. Do it again!
I just love that last line. Great hub.
I am their eternal love slave! Isn't there a rehab for that?
What a wonderful hub you have written! I remember my 5th year well, but I was already in 1st grade (the teacher thought I was ready early). I especially enjoy both of my children during their kindergarten experiences. Thanks for sharing.
I'm sure that this period of my time 65 years ago resounds in the mind of my Kindergarten teacher at Clara Barton Elementary School. I am in awe of her patience and of my memory of that wonderful time. Thank you, Rochelle.


















































































lorlie6 Level 3 Commenter 2 years ago
Ah, Rochelle! This hub stole my heart, however at the start I did think you were talking about some adults I know.
I worked many years ago as a TA for children with disabilities, and they were wonderful in their innocence. I do miss it.
Thank you for such a lovely read.